I was inspired last week, by some clients that needed to understand the basis for their ongoing frustration with family relationships. How can we work so hard to try to love someone, and still be frustrated with them so frequently? Once the question was lodged firmly in my counsellor mind, I too had to find the answer to this question. …
Is Your Relationship Healthy?
Markers of a Healthy or Unhealthy Relationship Most people identify frequent unresolved disagreements, arguments, a lack of trust, poor communication, and criticism, as markers of an unhealthy relationship. When asked, most describe the attributes of a healthy relationship using the following terms: A strong and loving bond; Great communication; Exceptional trust; Ongoing commitment to resolving whatever life brings. When the …
The Definition of Love
When asked to define what love is, one study rated trust as the most important component of love. Also rated as highly important were commitment, caring, honesty, friendship, respect, faithfulness, reliability, loyalty and communication. Loving or Needy? People who are insecure sometimes use unhealthy love relationships to boost their self esteem, or give themselves a sense of identity and direction. …
Myths About Love
Myth: Intense jealousy is a sign of strong love. Fact: Jealousy typically comes from low self-confidence, which creates unreasonable fears of losing your mate. Irrational jealousy causes tension and usually damages love in the long term. Myth: You cannot control your feelings for someone. Fact: Love is a decision. Falling in or out of love means changing your feelings and …
Healthy Love Relationships
Getting and Keeping Them Love is the source of emotional oxygen that keeps humanity alive and well. As long as there are human beings, there will be love. Why are some couples happier in love than others? Although love has often been compared to passionate romance, it is really much more than infatuation. Love can come in many forms, for …