Some personality traits developed in childhood lead to burnout vulnerability. Performance orientation, conditional love, co-dependency patterns, rigid thinking, perfectionism, and lack of flexibility, are personality traits that are crucial factors in determining whether a person will burn out.
Striving for goals that are not yours is a quick route to stress, anxiety and burnout. Many children grow up trying to be "good enough" for their parents and/or other important relationships.
Many individuals find themselves still trying to meet their parents expectations even after their parents are deceased, or living a great distance away from them.Trying to live up to the expectations of others will drain energy and make life difficult and challenging.
The fear of success leads to self-sabotage and repeated failures. The fear of failure causes success to become a precarious perch, making it exceptionally difficult to make progress or move forward.
Relationship burnout occurs when:
The relationship is too intense. During the initial infatuation or "honeymoon" stage, the relationship can be very intense and energetic. This energy level cannot be sustained indefinitely, but we may find that we spend a lot of time and energy to keep up this unrealistic image.
When you live with a person who is burnt-out you also may become affected when the burnout characteristics and responsibilities are passed on. Responsibility is frequently passed on from the burnt-out person to their close friends and partners as burnout decreases a person's ability to carry their share of the load. Sometimes these relationships can become a significant drain on already stretched resources and energy.